We’ve all heard the stories and have read countless articles about the Bride. “The Perfect Dress” and the “Perfect Location”, but rarely do we see or hear anything about her shy, quiet, yet equally important counterpart. The Groom.
Did you know that there are more publications that canvas the globe and travel through the circuits of the World Wide Web concerning the bride, than the groom?
Well isn’t he just as important?
After all there would be no wedding without him. Even though the groom’s role is often downplayed, and mostly in the background, he’s an essential and vital part to the success of the day’s events.
A grooms’ persona may be projected as that of nonchalant, laid back, NID’s (Not Into Details), and in several instances, that’s how it is.
You may have heard many stories of grooms not wanting to get involved in planning their “Big Day”, leaving the bride, MOTB (Mother of the Bride) and the MOH (Maid of Honor) to handle all of the details. But that ‘s on the contrary. More & more grooms today are taking an active role in planning their nuptials. From choosing colors palettes and themes, taking dance lessons, making music selections, and right down to coordinating his party’s look for the day. It’s without a shadow of a doubt , that his tastes and ideas could be matched with that of his bride to be.
Either way, whether his input is great or STN (Slim To Nil), know that it’s okay. Give him the opportunity to express himself, even if it’s only minute in form. Just know that he’s committed. Not often portrayed in do or deed, but in matters of the heart.
However frustrating this may be because of his too calm, too cool, and too collected attitude, don’t be dismayed. Get him involved by asking him questions that will only pique and grab hold of his interests. For instance, if he’s not a coattail and cuff link type of guy, but he plans to get spiffed up on the Big Day, ask him to make a list of photos he’d like the photographer to capture of him getting donned up to commemorate this very special day. Get creative in finding ways to get him involved.
Moreover, from my experience in dealing with grooms firsthand, the facade does not last very long and the gloves tend to come off the moment he lays eyes on his bride (and the floodgates of emotions are no longer able to contain themselves), as she begins her walk down the aisle, towards him, and their destiny together.
From the Groom’s point of view, “Saying less …. is More”. Often of few words, his opinions and ideas are worth more than their weight than gold.